Thursday, December 20, 2007

Just humor me, will ya?

So it hits me just the other day... things might change. More specifically, the time Josh and I spend together. I've been treasuring my time with Josh even more so lately than I usually do. I think we have a relatively close relationship, in that we spend alot of time together when we are not working. We go running together, we visit bookstores and coffee shops together, we go grocery shopping together. We like movies, road trips, and parks with winding trails. We have a yoga mat and a tiny apartment. We have our little life and for the most part, we enjoy it.

So, how much longer will we have the freedom to tie on our running shoes and head out the front door for a quick run and conversation? Or stay up late watching X-files, listening to the Beatles, or pulling the couches together to watch a movie? As I cried over these questions yesterday morning, Josh hugged me and tried not to laugh at my melodrama. "Why can't we still do all those things?", he asked. It dawned on my that I had been piecing together this picture of the future "us" based on advice and stories from many people who, lately, have taken it upon themselves to warn me of the dreadful changes to come... It goes something like this:

My world will turn upside down. My sleep will be reduced to about three hours per night, if I'm lucky. My husband won't recognize me because I won't have any time to bathe, brush my teeth, or comb my hair. I'll also lose all sense of style, as I will continue to wear maternity clothes long after I've had the baby. This will happen mainly because I will not be able to lose any or all of the weight I gained while pregnant. We won't ever be able to leave the house without first spending two hours planning the trip (be it an errand to the corner store or a holiday vacation). Spontaneity will cease to exist. Our love life will shrivel up and die for at least 12 months, and our baby will do nothing but cry, poop, and sometimes sleep (but only for 30 minutes at a time). So eat, drink, and be merry, for tomorrow you shall die.

I don't think so.

We plan to baby-wear, sling carry, and breastfeed this child. All of these things are designed for convenience. We will still need fresh air, exercise, and music. So, we also plan to introduce our kid to nature trails and the great man-made lakes of Texas asap, all while listening to the Beatles and U2 on the car ride up. We will still be the same quirky people who can't stand to be indoors or away from friends for very long. Why will things be so very very very different? So we'll have a baby who gets to come along and experience the same life we get to experience. So we'll learn to stifle our gag reflex when changing a poopy diaper. And we'll learn how to be a family instead of just a couple. Josh is right. There's no "end" in site, just new things to learn about and look forward to. This is going to be one cool kid, and he (or she!) is gonna have a blast in this world. I can't wait... :-)

8 comments:

Amanda said...

That's right girl! One cool kid is on the way. No end...just a new addition to the fun people you are. Let her (or him) join you in life and embrace your new family, still enjoying all of the things you do. Ken says his babies just joined in all the action, they are just little people waiting to learn what is cool in this world...show em the good stuff! Smiles...

Amanda said...

Have baby...will travel!

Lesley said...

Such a great out look you have! Yes it will change and it will be different...but you will get to a point where its hard to remember what life was like without this little person in it to make it so much more interesting and fun! And those activities will be even more eventful with a little one to join in! All that said...do enjoy your time together as just "two"--that bond is what great parents are built on. Hugs...

Anonymous said...

Very true! Just watch out for baby #2! ; )

Amy said...

Cool I didn't know you guys had a blog! I'm late now but some of those things are true, and some aren't, but people do love to scare new parents to be and most things are a "tad' exaggerated. The truth of the matter is that your life is going to change, but only for the better...at least that's my experience. There is nothing better than seeing your little miracle for the first time and realizing that you were made for each other (somewhat literally!). You and Josh are going to be awesome parents, w/one cool, well "cultured" kid!

Anonymous said...

I too didn't know you had this and I like it

Anonymous said...

me again....I've never done this before....duh....I agree with the previous comments....and wish to add.....Yes, having the baby will change things but will just be a "new chapter" in your life..and diary... I say...enjoy every second of it because it flies by so swiftly, enjoy every minute in the hospital with people waiting on you and and every experience there. At home enjoy those times of the 'three' of you now...and the 'two' of you up in the middle of the night....I use to LOVE those middle of the night feedings and rockings and walkings...and singing...they may seem endless while you're going through them but believe me you may wish you had more of them! Treasure them. Get a jogging stroller or regular one ...you'll find the baby fits right into to everything you do. Do you know how many miles we put on our strollers...sometimes two at a time!!! FUN! That is also your time together for conversations and plans. I could go on but guess I better shut up. I wish you the best and God's good blessings on your little family...He must have some plans for you guys!

Mandi said...

Great encouragement, you guys! Good to see you, Robin and Amy; and ha ha, very funny Kelly! :0)